These hints and tips are just things that worked for me, so I thought I would share them just incase they work for someone else, please share them with anyone you know who is pregnant. Now obviously it is always wise to check with your health professional about any of the supplements and vitamins that I talk about below, as I am not a specialist, just a Mum.
Because I had turned 40 while I was pregnant I was a great deal more focussed on my health. I was much more vigilant on taking Pregnacare (vitamins specially formulated for pregnant or nursing mothers) extra, which includes Omega3 tablets as well. I also took a liquid Iron supplement called Spatone for a while (liquid iron doesn’t tend to constipate you like the pills do). Then when I got more tired I replaced Spatone with Floradix, which is a liquid iron and mineral supplement; much more effective, but also more expensive. Ironically, I had to be much more healthy this time because unlike the chocolate & crisps I existed on in my first pregnancy (the only thing I fancied when feeling sick every day for 9 months), I only felt well when eating very small portions of healthy food. The outcome was that within 2 weeks of ‘little pink’ being born, I had lost all my pregnancy weight; but don’t start getting jealous, because I do have the weight from pregnancy no1 still ;o) ‘Little pink’ also came out nearly 3lbs heavier than ‘monster/angel boy’ and appeared a great deal stronger. Of course, these outcomes could be nothing to do with my strategies, but hey, it’s possible and I do think that it’s worth remembering that diets are a no-no when pregnant, but you aren’t actually eating for two full sized people when pregnant either!
One thing I didn’t get to do as much of as in pregnancy No1 was exercise, because there just isn’t the time for it. I was worried, but afterwards realised that just being a Mum of a 4yr old was enough, even with the onset of SPD (hip and pelvis pain due to the body releasing too much relaxin) which meant I wasn’t very active. But that didn’t seem to cause problems with the birth.
I was really focussed on tieing up lose strings with my two businesses when I was pregnant, so I didn’t do a great deal of preparation. Then I suddenly realised that if I had wanted to do ‘Hypnobirthing’ that I hadn’t left myself with enough time to do it. When I looked into it more deeply, I realised it probably wasn’t for me anyway, as due to my training I have heard too many hypno/meditation audios with ping pong music and sickly sweet voices (no disrespect to them, just not my cup of tea). But I did need something, and having found a scottish guy called ** Andrew Johnson who creates hypnotherapy iphone apps and downloadable audios. One of my mummy blogger mates introduced me to him on Twitter and I was lucky enough to get to beta test his pregnancy app. I can therefore definitely recommend his Relax, Sleep and Pregnancy Apps/Audios as I slept brilliantly in the last 2 months of pregnancy (normally very difficult) and was very relaxed in the build up towards the birth. Of course he has an unfair advantage with the scottish accent, which is naturally relaxing, and I can’t really give an in depth analysis of his hypnosis techniques as I’m pretty much asleep nowadays on his first couple of words. This is pretty amazing, as I’ve never been the best sleeper, had loads of pain from SPD in my pregancy, and used to find it really difficult to sleep when I’d been woken frequently by a baby.
I was also really lucky to find a Doula a couple of months before the end of my pregnancy, which was cutting it a bit fine if baby had come early! She also had a pool, which was great as I found them difficult to find. I thoroughly recommend a Doula if you can afford one, or look for a Doula in training if you are short on cash. This would be a great use of the cash that you (currently) get from the government near the end of your pregnancy. If you live near me, then check out Herts Doulas.
Apart from that I didn’t do much preparation, not just because it was my second, but also because you can order pretty much anything online nowadays. Some big shops have slow delivery times, but ebay and amazon are really quick. You don’t even have to panic about buying nursery furniture to be honest, because you might end up with kids like mine who never use it (p.s. Ikea nursery furniture tends to be the most reasonably priced, everything else seems to be at a premium). It really doesn’t need to cost loads to have a baby, you don’t even need to buy an expensive pram as slings are often preferred by little ones.
Here is my Hospital Bag list, which was also for use after the birth if at home:
- Birthplan, Antibacterial wipes, Energy drink and snack, iphone speakers
- For baby: 2 vests, 2 allinones, cardigan, hat, gloves, blanket, newborn nappies, cotton wool & wipes
- For me: Face cleaner wipes, moisturiser, tinted moisturiser, shampoo, shower gel, toothbrush & paste, maternity pads & throw away knickers, 2 nightshirts, 1 long sleeve shirt, 1 pair of trousers, 1 pair flat shoes, 1 bra and knickers, cardigan.
Here is the list of what I was told I needed in addition for a home birth:
- Waterproof covers (from DIY store), torch, small table, kitchen roll, pampers changing mat (put under seat in loo to deliver placenta into), lots of old towels, bucket. My Doula provided the pool and homeopathy kit.
This was my list of what to do when things kicked off and I either had regular contractions or my waters broke (I didn’t have to find babysitters for Monster/Angel boy as I was going to have a Doula with me and hubby was looking after the dogs and my son:
- Phone Husband if he is at work, plus Mums available to pick up Max from nursery (not necessary thankfully!)
- Phone Doula
- Start Filling Pool and put on immersion heater just in case.
- Phone Delivery Suite
- Cancel cleaner
- Make sure room warm and baby towel & clothes are on radiator to warm up.
- Put on music/tv
The biggest tip I can give you is to take care of yourself. I know that you will feel guilty if there are things that you are not able to do, but it’s only a while, and it’s worth knowing that you did everything possible to keep yourself and your baby healthy. Here is a link to my other blog on the birth, incase you fancy knowing how it turned out in comparison to birth no1, which was incredibly different. Hope these tips are useful, good luck with everything!
** I have just become an affiliate for Andrew Johnson, mainly because I’m likely to recommend him lots and it seems daft not to! However, I don’t expect it to be massively lucrative, as most of you will be buying iphone apps, rather than downloading the audios, and I’m pretty sure there is no way of tracking those ;o)